“I guide you to reconnect with your body, your presence, and your truth,
so you can live with clarity, authenticity, and ease.”
- Rainey EllenTrauma-aware, somatic coaching for people who feel disconnected from themselves
and are ready to take full responsibility for their lives.
From survival and self doubt to
embodied self leadership.
“Healing isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about reclaiming who you’ve always been beneath the patterns that kept you safe.”
- Rainey Ellen Is this you?-
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On the outside, your life works.
Inside, something feels disconnected, flat, or quietly exhausting.
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You attune to others so deeply..
that your own needs go missing. But when someone asks what you need, your mind goes blank.
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You say yes when you mean no.
You people please, overfunction, or disappear. You hold it together—at your own expense.
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You live mostly in your head..
trying to think your way into change. You struggle to feel your needs clearly.
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You hold the weight for others.
You take on responsibility and emotions, that aren’t actually yours. Rest feels undeserved.
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Closeness can feel overwhelming
or unsafe, or strangely numb. You want connection but your body tightens, withdraws, or goes quiet.
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Your patterns keep repeating.
You’ve done the inner work. You understand why you are the way you are and still find yourself reacting the same way, again and again.
Before our work together.
Weak, blurred, or inconsistent boundaries
Overthinking, self doubt, and self gaslighting
Living in reaction rather than choice
Disconnection, numbness or tension in your body
Shame, guilt, or fear shaping your decisions.
Living from survival and self protection
After our work together.
Firm embodied boundaries, soft presence
Trusting your inner knowing, honouring your voice
Acting from self respect, clarity, and truth
Living from choice, presence, and inner authority
Feeling safe, grounded, and fully home in your body
Pausing, sensing, and choosing how you respond
You are allowed to soften. Come Home to Yourself.
The embodied
self leadership process
A trauma aware path from survival to embodied choice
This work is not about fixing you.
It’s about gently undoing the patterns your system learned to survive and helping you lead your life from the inside out.
Recognising what’s been running you. You learn to see your patterns, beliefs, and coping strategies without judgment so they lose their grip.
awareness
Restoring relationship with your body. We rebuild safety with your body, emotions, and needs, allowing sensation and truth to return at your pace.
connection
Choosing yourself with clarity and care. You learn to feel, name, and communicate boundaries in a grounded, respectful way without hardening or collapsing.
honouring
Living from inner authority. You begin to act from self-trust instead of survival, moving through life with presence, choice, and integrity.
embodiment
This is guided, embodied transformation.
This work is for you if you’re ready to stop surviving on autopilot and start living from truth, connection, and choice. It’s about helping you remember who you are beneath the patterns you learned to survive.
What I can Help you with?
Why work with me?
I know this territory, personally and professionally.
I come from a history of abuse,
and I know what it takes to rebuild connection with the body, intimacy and self-trust.
My work is trauma-aware, somatic, and grounded.
I work with what is alive in you,
while holding a clear and contained process.
This is deep work. And it is possible.
Let's work together if..you’re willing to turn inward and take responsibility for your healing.
If you’re open to working with the body, not only the mind,
and you’re longing for real, sustainable change — not quick fixes.
If you’re ready to slow down, to feel,
and to meet discomfort with curiosity rather than avoidance.
If you’re done repeating patterns that no longer serve you,
and you want to relate to yourself and others
with more honesty, presence, and depth.
And if you’re willing to keep showing up, even when the process feels challenging.
This work asks for courage, honesty, and commitment. It offers depth, clarity, and real transformation in return.
If you want solutions without self-reflection,
or change without involving the body.
If you prefer staying in the story
rather than moving through what’s actually present.
If you’re not ready to feel your emotions
or to listen to your body yet.
If you expect transformation without participation, accountability, or commitment.
And if you’re seeking fast answers
rather than the slower work of deep integration.
This work may not be for you..If you’re unsure whether this is a fit,
the first step is a conversation.
“Rainey is such a pleasure to work with. Down to earth yet deeply intuitive; She knows exactly which topics to work with to get to the core of things and she knows which approach is best to do so. The combination of her practices and her clear view and feedback are a powerful one. The constellation practice gave both me and my partner so much insight in our individual processes. And the Tantric work helped us to find more connection from an authentic place. Very grateful for this grounded, wise woman and her work”
— Fleur Jolie
Ways we can work together
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Individual Coaching
Trauma-aware, embodied coaching for deep self-trust, clarity, and change.
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Couples Coaching
Trauma-aware coaching For couples who want deeper connection and honest relating.
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Immersion Day
One day. Deep clarity. Lasting shift.
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Somatic Healing
Your body remembers even when words fall short.
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Workshop and Group Work
Learning together. Feeling together. Remembering together.
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Education
Trauma Aware Education around consent, boundaries, and communication. Honest conversations create safer futures.
FAQ’s
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Many of the people I work with have already done years of therapy or personal development.
This work goes beyond insight.
It works directly with the body, nervous system, and lived patterns, not just understanding or talking about them.If you’ve noticed that you know a lot but still feel stuck, disconnected, or repeating the same dynamics, this approach meets the part of you that insight alone doesn’t reach.
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This is a very common fear — and an important one.
If you’re afraid this will be another thing you start and don’t finish,
that pattern itself is part of the work.We don’t push through resistance or bypass it.
We work with the nervous system responses underneath it, so change becomes sustainable rather than forced.You don’t need to be “better” at discipline to do this work.
You need willingness and honesty. -
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You don’t need to be healed, confident, or have everything figured out.
You do need to be willing to look inward and take responsibility for your inner world.This work is not about fixing you —
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The work is deep, but it is paced, grounded, and consent-based.
Nothing is forced.
We work within what your nervous system can safely integrate.Intensity comes from truth and presence — not from pushing or retraumatizing.
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If you:
Want to stay focused on blaming others
Prefer to stay in the story without changing it
Are not willing to look at your own patterns
Are looking for quick fixes or surface-level tools
This work asks for self-responsibility and presence.
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People often experience:
Stronger connection with their body
Clearer boundaries and needs
Less self-doubt and self-gaslighting
More grounded communication
A felt sense of inner authority and clarity
Results look different for each person, but the common thread is embodied self-trust.
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Self-responsibility here does not mean blaming yourself for what happened to you.
It means recognising that while you didn’t choose your past, you do have a choice in how you live now.
This work supports you to step out of victim patterns without shaming your survival responses.
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I don’t work to fix you — I work to help you come back into relationship with yourself.
This work goes beyond mindset or insight. It works with the body, nervous system, and the patterns that live underneath your story. That’s where real change becomes possible.
What also makes this work different is that I combine lived experience with professional depth. I know this terrain not only through training, but through having walked it myself. That allows me to meet you with real attunement — not theory, not performance.
I don’t push for breakthroughs or emotional intensity.
I work slow enough for safety and deep enough for truth. Nothing is forced, and nothing is bypassed.At the same time, I don’t collude with staying stuck.
This work invites radical self-responsibility without shame — honouring what happened to you while supporting you to choose how you live now.I use a clear method as a backbone, but I don’t apply people to a rigid framework. Each session is guided by what your system needs in that moment — grounded, intuitive, and precise.
People often say they feel deeply met here — and that they leave with something even more important: self-trust, clarity, and the capacity to stay connected to themselves in real life.
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The clarity session is a grounded, honest conversation.
We’ll explore:
What’s currently not working
What you’re longing for
Whether this work is the right next step for you
There is no pressure to commit.
If it’s not a fit, I will tell you clearly.
Just imagine what it would feel like to live a life aligned with your values, your truth, and your inner knowing.
To gently release what’s been holding you back and
step into a way of living that feels clear, embodied, and truly yours.
- Rainey Ellen